4th Anniversary!

4th Anniversary!

Today is our 4th wedding anniversary.

A few days ago Evan said to me, “I don’t know what’s crazier…that it’s been four years, or that next year will be 5!” Next year will be our first big milestone anniversary, and I’m sure I’ll write about it then too, but this year feels big to me.

We have done a lot in four years. We’ve lived in two states, moved 4.5 times (one was just a transition month of staying with family until we got our own place), gone through a deployment, weeks of training and being separated, ups and downs of life, arguments, date nights and weekend getaways, a mission trip, both of us being in school at different points, Chuck marathons on Netflix (twice), 6 jobs between the both of us, having a baby and lots of other things. We’ve been busy.

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{Home from deployment after 6 months}

From the first time I met Evan, while we were shaking hands, (and as a 15 year old) I thought, “Wow, he’s really cute.” But then I thought, “He’s going to be in my life from now on.” I was surprised by that thought, and didn’t know exactly what it would mean. Now I realize it was like a little nudge from God and him saying, “Hey, guess what? This is your husband!” I get butterflies when I think back to that moment. It was our beginning.

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When we decided to get married, we had an awesome support system, but there were also the people that thought we were crazy. There were lots of comments of, “Who gets married at 18 and 21 years old anymore”, “You’re rushing it.” “He’s in the military, he’ll probably cheat on you.”, “You should date more, you’re too young to commit to someone. You need to experience more men.”, “Are you just marrying him for the benefits of the military? The extra money,  free college, and kids…”.

People didn’t think we’d make it, and didn’t think we were getting married for the right reasons. It was hard at times having to defend my relationship as an 18 year old,  but I did because I knew we were made for each other, and meant to be together.
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I’m no expert on marriage, but if I could give any advice to a couple it would be…be best friends! Evan and I were friends for a year and a half before we told each other our feelings. Yes, we also had a romantic interest in each other the whole time that we kept to ourselves, but we also grew to respect each other, pray for each other, trust each other and shared a common faith with each other while we became friends. Which is something that is so important in marriage. Our foundation was strong going into our wedding day, and I think it made all the difference in the world.

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One thing that I love about our marriage is how much fun we have with each other. We laugh all the time. We poke fun at each other, we are super sarcastic (it’s like our love language. HA!) and we have fun together! Sometimes we talk about how we should be more mature in our relationship. How we should stop doing certain things because sometimes we still act like we’re 18 and 21. But you know what? I wouldn’t change it. I want us to be young at heart. Life is to short too take everything too seriously. I don’t want to look back when I’m 70 and think about all the serious and mature things we did. I want to remember all the fun times we had, all the laughs we shared and all the exciting times together. Plus, we’re still so young! Sometimes I forget that I’m only almost 23!! I keep getting told, “These are the best years of your life together. Enjoy them!” I want to do just that.There’s plenty of time already that we have to be “adults”. 🙂

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I know we’ve only begun, and these four years are such a little piece out of the 60 + years I hope we have together still. But, I guess I’m just feeling proud today of that fact that we beat the odds,  and that we have a healthier, stronger, and happier marriage than the day we wed!

I’m so excited for the year to come (and all the rest!). We have a lot of decisions, planning, goals, dreams, hopefully more children and experiences ahead of us. I can’t wait to see where God takes us. We just want to be used for Him. We’re so open to whatever He has in store, that I know it’s going to be such a wonderful adventure. I feel so blessed to be able to go on that adventure with the one that I love the best and most.EmilyEvan856

Here’s to another year of loving each other and doing life together.

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One thought on “4th Anniversary!

  1. There will always be people ready to comment on everything. Please just trust God and your heart. It will never lead you down the wrong path.

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